tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24519117.post6824148078903617941..comments2023-10-21T01:24:34.902+10:00Comments on Fly My Pretty: We will return to normal viewing in a momentStegetroniumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15881823966680751798noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24519117.post-85169829220330304952007-09-23T21:20:00.000+10:002007-09-23T21:20:00.000+10:00"Some twin parents (admittedly not the majority) h..."Some twin parents (admittedly not the majority) have told me that after the hell of the first six weeks" <BR/><BR/>Six weeks?! At least the first 12 are hell - and that was with just one ;-)<BR/><BR/>I was heard to say to my partner, when our babe was about 7 weeks old, that I'd made a dreadful mistake having a baby. Honestly. And that first year put a big strain on our relationship, which took a long time to recover. <BR/><BR/>I know parents can often be the bearer of bad tidings and it seems like they get off on it - and you know how much I adore my child now - the reason I tell stories about the negatives is that if that happens to you, you won't think you're the only one in the world who's ever felt like that. Becoming a mother is a drastic upheaval - it takes years for the dust to settle.<BR/><BR/>Having said all that, I agree that this pair sound a bit naive and selfish - but then again, they have to tell the negative stores in order to win the case. And it might be that they started the case three years ago, as soon as they found out it was twins - it might have taken ages to get to court.<BR/><BR/>SuzeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24519117.post-86324560429538161212007-09-23T20:02:00.000+10:002007-09-23T20:02:00.000+10:00Yes...it's all very well for me to have all sorts ...Yes...it's all very well for me to have all sorts of opinions now, but just wait til I have two screaming babies. Still, it's good for me to write it out, try and work out why I am so affected by this. (rather than just blindly reiterating the consensus of outrage)Stegetroniumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15881823966680751798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24519117.post-47183099993658060642007-09-23T18:56:00.000+10:002007-09-23T18:56:00.000+10:00I've already commented at Themuriels about this. A...I've already commented at Themuriels about this. All the outraged mothers saying how could they not love a child. Well it's easy with post-natal depression and as much as I tried to love him, he was some alien creature that I could kill any minute if he didn't stop crying. I ended up by hurting myself instead. My mother looked after him for 12 months but I went there every day and I had to put up with so-called friends and their mothers whispering about how lazy I was not to have him at home. <BR/>90 per cent of mothers will have felt this way about their child at some stage after the birth, most of them just won't admit it.JahTehhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02007730071564639411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24519117.post-38497581617831427802007-09-23T09:58:00.000+10:002007-09-23T09:58:00.000+10:00Keep working it out... it's certainly an issue wit...Keep working it out... it's certainly an issue with many layers.<BR/><BR/>Another one I've come to is the whole death/birth dichotomy.<BR/><BR/>For instance, if they were suing over wrongful death, everyone would be cheering them on.<BR/><BR/>They're not though. There case surrounds the "sanctity of life" and all the deeply entrenched muck which that involves.<BR/><BR/>More thoughts to keep you up at night!Kelly & Sam Pilgrim-Byrnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09994151711253644372noreply@blogger.com